I have a theory about this. I feel that in so many technologically-based cultures, our disconnection from one another causes us to turn toward strangers for our therapy, instead of our immediate community. (Certainly, the disfunctionality of many families, makes opening up and listening to one another impossible.) I wonder if because our societies have lost so much of our sense of community that we have also lost the secure space to open up to those in our immediate circles.
Once upon a time, moms and daughters and aunts and cousins and grandmothers all spent hours a day working side by side, keeping their families fed, clothed, and cared for. They learned from one another. They had the opportunity to ask questions of one another. It’s not the answer to all the problems, and it can be romanticized — in the same communities, the lack of education and open-mindedness shut down a lot of curiosity and potential, also. And, mental health wasn’t even a consideration.
But today, everyone has their own career, their own circle of friends, and of course, their own, private online presence. This actually lends itself to greater insecurity, which, I fully believe, is a huge part of our mental pain. With the loss of tightly-knit community came greater mental trauma.
Overly simplistic, but a theory.